Whether you like it or not, using dating apps and websites to find potential matches seems to be the norm these days. But this doesn’t work for everyone.
Here are 10 reasons why you are always left swiping on dating apps.
1) Your profile is incomplete
Have you created the profile in only two minutes? Even the 2-minute maggie takes more time to cook. It is evident.
Your initial impression is created by your dating profile, especially the brief text on dating apps. You only get one opportunity to make a first impression, therefore, you should use it wisely.
2) You haven’t added complete pictures for yourself
Our loved ones and friends aren't always the finest photographers. However, even if they aren't, a profile consisting of selfies or mirror selfies might be off-putting.
Selfies can make you appear artificial, pretentious, or like you don't go out much.
There should be a complete and clear picture that shows your face clearly, at least on a body shot, and a few that show off your personality or things you like to do.
After all, compliments on a photo like "That's such a cool photo... where did you take it?" are considerably more likely than ones like "Nice toilet in the backdrop!"
3) You have added too many group photos
Online daters have a short attention span, so playing a game of "Where's Waldo?" can become boring very soon and lead to a left swipe.
Many people think that group images demonstrate your social skills, but they also unintentionally draw comparisons to your friends or family.
Be the center of attention.
4) You are having bad grammar in your profile
Ask a friend to check over your profile for a fast edit (or submit it to an internet tool like Grammarly). Even while it's not the end of the world if you can identify "your" from "you're," it does make you seem less intelligent than you actually are. It also gives the impression that you are being careless and haven't given your bio any thought.
Avoid utilizing extended run-on phrases, improper punctuation, and cluttered layout, which all detract from the reader's appeal of your profile (or are just really hard to read).
5) You are too lazy to respond
Online dating won't be successful for you if you created a blank profile that you never check, update, or manage.
Choose a few of your favorite photographs, write a thoughtful bio, and set aside time every day, even just 10 minutes, to check your apps for activity.
If you receive a message and don't respond for three weeks, the sender has likely moved on and you may have lost out on a chance.
6) You are listing all the things you’re not looking for
Many individuals believe that everyone will save time by making a list of all the qualities they are not searching for in a relationship. However, it's actually giving you a very bad impression, which most people find immediately repulsive.
Instead, present the situation favorably. Try something like, "I respect hard work and drive, and I'm searching for comparable attributes in a spouse" rather than, "I don't want a partner who is a lazy bum who doesn't have a job."
7) You are sending just Hi or Hello messages
Receiving a message that says nothing more than "Hello" is the worst. The onus is entirely on the other party to maintain the flow of discourse.
Instead, you can start with a question. It can be general, but if you include something from their profile that demonstrates that you actually took a moment to look at it, you're more likely to receive a response.
By posing questions, you increase the likelihood that the person on the other end of the line will respond—hopefully with a question for you.
8) You are murdering your first date by:-
Discussing your ex
Any form of complaint
Asking if they want to get married or start a family
Taking pride in or mentioning how much money you earn
At the end of the night, not grabbing the bill
You should never do anything like that on your first date or any date.
9) You are getting too sexual
The issue is, don't do it.
Getting sexual is typically a complete turnoff, whether it's a "joke" in your profile or an attempt to appear "flirty" while texting someone.
It gives the impression that you are not looking for a serious relationship, but rather just a hookup.
10) You are showing too much interest
Maybe you are impressed by someone’s profile and get over-enthusiastic. But don’t show it very soon to another person. It may look creepy and make them run away and make you left swipe. But don’t ignore that person also.
The Bottom Line
The most common method of finding a significant other is internet dating.
In reality, the majority of people assume that if you're looking for a companion, you'll be online. It's no longer acceptable or expected to simply approach a man or woman in a bar, grocery store, or even the gym.
You need to change your perspective on online dating if you want to play the game a little longer.