A unique newspaper advertisement seeking a 'ghost' groom for a deceased young bride has captured widespread attention in Tulunadu, a region encompassing the coastal districts of Dakshina Kannada and Udupi in Karnataka. The ad, written in Kannada, reads: "If the family of a male child of the same caste, who died 30 years ago, is willing to conduct a ghost marriage for a female child who died 30 years ago, please contact."
This unusual request has reportedly accumulated over 50 responses, highlighting the tradition's deep roots in the local culture. The concept of "Kule Madime" or "Pretha Maduve" involves conducting marriage rituals for deceased individuals, believing that this provides closure and salvation for their souls.
The recent 'Ghost Bride' case originated in Puttur, where a family experienced unsettling incidents, which they attributed to the spirit of a girl who died at one month old, thirty years ago. After consulting with experts, the family was advised to arrange a marriage for the deceased girl to restore peace. Despite exhaustive inquiries among relatives and friends, they could not find a suitable match, prompting them to place the advertisement.
A resident of Puttur shared his experience with 'Udayavani', expressing the emotional importance of the practice despite mockery on social media. He emphasized the tradition's role in maintaining cultural and spiritual beliefs, which are deeply rooted in the local community.
Professor K. Chinnappa Gowda, a folklore scholar, explained that ghost marriages are conducted with rituals mirroring traditional weddings. These ceremonies, performed with the utmost respect, are believed to secure the spiritual well-being of the departed and are considered vital in Tulunadu society.
The advertisement specified a groom from the Kulal caste and Bangera gotra, who also passed away around thirty years ago. Families interested in participating were encouraged to reach out using the contact number provided. Despite initial concerns about backlash or mockery, the advertisement sparked curiosity and raised awareness about this ancient custom.
A family member who placed the ad stated that since its publication, they have received around 50 inquiries. They expressed surprise at the positive response, noting that many people from different castes reached out to learn more about the practice. This awareness has helped broaden our understanding of the cultural significance of ghost marriages in Tulunadu.
(Input from various media sources)
(Rehash/ Susmita Bhandary/MSM)
