Sexual incompatibility is one of the ubiquitous obstacles faced by a couple. It affects the relationship at every phase, if not addressed with caution. Also named as discrepant libidos, it has been ascertained as the most common cause for displeasure and disgruntlement in a partnership.
Reason:
There can be many reasons for sexual discordancy, but the most prevalent reasons can be –
Dabbling and Probing New Endeavors – when a partner wishes to break the vapidness of the face to face position that had worked splendidly during their springtime of their relationship, and if the sentiment isn’t requited, dissatisfaction is sure to befall. Not disregarding the fact that each one of us ensconce certain fantasies and visions which we expect our other half to fulfil and satisfy. Oftentimes, even after acquiring a certain level of ease, women are rather lackadaisical during the deed, leaving the men demanding for more.
Periodicity of Coupling – Remember those heydays when you yearned and craved for each other? The intimacy quotient is at its peak amidst new lovers. The passionate phase makes room for the more sensual lovemaking which is more pleasant, sententious and gratifying. Howsoever, when the haziness of the passion decreases and the monotony of the everyday sex starts creeping in, the recurrent ”not tonight honey” becomes more apparent, causing unhappiness and discontentment to creep in a relationship. The oftenness of coupling differs from person to person, so much so that both partner's idea of what is right often may not match. The desire for frequent sex also lean on in which phase the relationship is.
Libidinousness – All of us have a distinctive sexual appetence which diversifies and differs throughout our lifespan. Partner with lower sexual zeal can feel hectored and pressed to even miffed and bitter at engaging in the act when he/she feel peakish while the partner who has higher sexual appetite will possibly feel shunned and upset when their enthusiasm is not corresponded.
How to deal with it:
Don't force your partner
On all accounts, refrain from forcing your partner into exploring new stimulating ways to enhance pleasure. Sexual enjoyment is more about how two individuals relate to each other and less about the mechanical competency. Being obsessed with developing an erotic artistry with a single-minded purpose is more likely to interfere with the exultation.
Woe and win
The process of intimacy is not rigid, but it is one that is continuously varying and fluent. Your partner has the best dominion on what is most gratifying to him/ her. Find ways to seduce your partner and bring him/her to a state where he/she feels aroused. Initiate a gentle habit to find out what makes him/her experience maximum pleasure and add those actions to your routine love-making session. Discrepancy in sexual appetite should not to be taken as personal rejection by the person with a greater sex drive. The active partner should bear in mind that acquitting their other half to some of the non-sexual cues of themselves can also help arouse interest.
Communication
Communication is crucial in letting your sexual desires be known to your partner, granted, it is done in a manner that doesn't undermine his/her manhood/womanhood, otherwise it will be a fruitless effort. Don’t sound demanding, critical or accusatory.
Talk and reason with your partner if conventional way feels dull as to how experimenting new ways and positions can enhance the pleasure for him/her as well.
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